If you have ever parented a two-year-old, you know what a battle it can be sometimes to remain calm and patient while maintaining your own sanity. Just yesterday, for example, after her nap, Eve was in some kind of major funk. She was pointing to something in her room and crying and apparently really pissed about something. As she stood there stomping her little feet with rage and crying frustrated tears — while, meanwhile, I was trying to get us out of the house — it took all I had to take a deep breath and stay calm.
There are many days, however, when I just can’t. Something in her incessant toddler whining or repeating the same question for the 40th time makes me lose my cool and I remain anything but calm. I then feel like a complete a-hole and start to wonder what is wrong with me. I’m the grownup, I’m the one who is supposed to be able to rise above these tough moments and set a good example. I begin to question my parenting and feel like I must be the only mom who acts this way.
Thankfully, I have a great network of moms nearby. I was talking to some of them about this and I was so relieved to know that I’m not the only one. It’s challenging, though, not to question ourselves and at our lowest moments think we must be the only ones who feel this way.
From our lowest parenting lows to our most amazing moments, I do believe that the grand majority of us are wonderful parents. Instead of harping on less-than-stellar parenting moments, we should take more time to focus on all the things we do really well. For example, yesterday morning, in the morning rush to get Eve to her coop, I took a few minutes to sit down with her and read her one of her latest favorite books. I let go of the everything I had running through my head to get us ready and out the door and took a few minutes to be with her. It wasn’t anything big, but I’m sure it meant the world to Eve, and it made me really happy to be with her.
That’s what parenting is all about, though. It’s the little moments that make us smile, the ones that make us cringe at our own behavior, and everything in between. Today I’m over on the Marvelous Moms podcast with Kirsten Tyrrel, a podcast dedicated to celebrating moms and all the ways that we are marvelous. As Kirsten shares, “It’s a place to hear stories from moms of all walks of life, to gain insight into ways other moms are rocking their role and to start dreaming again and believing in yourself!” I’m sharing not only what makes me a marvelous mom — flaws and all! — but how as moms we should make time for ourselves and our creativity.
What makes you a marvelous mom?