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The secret to what makes me a happy person

If you’re looking for new self care ideas, you don’t need to look much further than your own two hands.

My husband likes to tease me about this thing I do with my hands. It’s something I don’t even realize I’m going most of the time. 

Often, while writing out e-mails, I gesture as if I’m taking talking to the person.

I constantly need to be doing something with my hands. 

hands making silver and pearl jewelry

It’s always been that way.

As a kid, I would play legos and fold origami while watching Jim Henson’s Muppet Babies on Saturday mornings. As a teenager, my class notes were full of doodles in the margins. (Come to think of that, I still do that.)

Now, I enjoy adult coloring pages, cooking, and of course, making handmade jewelry

For me, doing something with my hands is very calming and centering.

(Those are my hands!)

It’s only been in the past few years that I’ve come to acknowledge that creative energy is constantly coursing through my veins.

I often channel that creativity through my hands.

My mom was the first to point out how creative I was and made sure I was enrolled in art classes and piano lessons and had ample access to art materials.

As an adult, I sought out opportunities to make things with my hands. I took classes in beading, jewelry metalsmthing, and DIYing; ran a crafting group for several years; and taught myself how to crochet and relearned how to knit.

Since becoming a parent, I’ve come to realize just how important doing things with my hands and having creative outlets is to me.

My self care routine, I’ve come to realize, involves doing something with my hands. 

Back when I selling jewelry, I find the monthly trip to the local jewelry metalsmithing studio to be revitalizing. 

I would track of time when I’m there in a way I couldn’t during the week.

I have to force myself to drink water, eat lunch, even go to the restroom because I’m so immersed in what I was doing. I would return home on these days jubilant and giddy with excitement over my latest design, proudly sharing with my family what I had been working on all day.


Those days in the studio were like gold to me.

I left feeling energized, centered, and ready to conquer the upcoming week.

It was what I needed after a long week running my business and taking care of my children.

Now, I don’t necessarily get that much time to myself anymore to focus on doing creative things with my hands. However, I still recognize the benefits of it, even in smaller doses.

And that is the secret-sauce to my happiness: building in time for jewelry-making and other hands-on creative activities. 

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As I talk about in my book, The Busy Mom’s Guide to Creativity, I believe that making time for creative outlets is vita to our overall well-being.

As important as things like eating healthy, drinking water, and exercising. I see it in my children, and I feel it in myself. Digging deeper, I realized there are some amazing benefits fo making jewelry and other hands-on creative activities.

The emotional and mental benefits of doing creative activities such as JEWELRY-MAKING

It uses your hands

So much of what we do involves using devices. While clearly we use our hands and fingers to hold and manipulate them, it’s not the same as using your hands to actually make something with them.  Creating something with our hands can help decrease stress and relieve anxiety. (It’s no wonder adult color books are so popular!)

adult coloring pages with affirmations

It engages your senses

The scent of freshly sanded metal. The click of closing jump rings. The rich colors of beads. The grip of a pair of pliers grasped in our hands. The act of jewelry-making is connected deeply to most of our senses (I would not encourage you to taste your supplies or finished pieces.)

Our well-being is impacted by our senses, and noticing those senses can help us be more mindful and present, which has all types of mental and emotional benefits, including reducing anxiety and increasing our ability to sustain our attention. 

Allows you to enter that state of flow

While this comes with practice and knowing what you’re doing — rather than in the learning states — doing something creatives that you love allows you to enter “the zone,” or that state of flow where you’re fully involved and enjoying the process of doing something. 

It gives you an opportunity to learn

I personally love learning for the sake of learning. It takes the pressure off and allows you to focus on things that you’re interested in, rather than what someone else thinks you need to learn. Learning new skills, especially as we get older, also helps us to keep our brains sharp.

While making time to do something creative with our hands can feel like a challenge, it can be unbelievably beneficial when you do. 


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35 thoughts on “The secret to what makes me a happy person”

  1. Bev, I totally need to have my hands occupied and have always since I was a young kid, too. And huge congrats on your book once again and hope you know just how much I have enjoyed it!!! ?

  2. I LOVE LOVE LOVE your book, Bev!! It is SO needed for all of us moms, just trying to find the space and time for ourselves. Buried underneath our busy lives, we must allow ourselves the freedom to pursuit our creative side. It IS such a nourishing outlet that fuels and feeds us. Thank you for writing this helpful guide to walk us through steps to do just that. ๐Ÿ™‚

    1. Yes, it is so so true, Chris! Having a creative outlet makes me a better, happier, more engaged mom. I can’t imagine taking care of Eve without my jewelry & blogging!

    1. Thanks so much, Tamara!
      Yay for hand talkers (and e-mail writers — I’m sure I do this when I blog too!)

  3. That’s so awesome you made a book! I love the topic. Sounds very cool! Good luck with getting more people to hear about it.

  4. CourtneyLynne Storms

    Omg how awesome gurlie!!!!! Such an important topic for all moms! I will schedule this to share either later tots you or tomorrow :):) good luck with the sales and hope everyone reads!

  5. Congrats on your book launch! So exciting! It sounds like a great book and is such an important idea. I definitely need an outlet after staying at home all week with the kids. I have been a dancer all my life, and went back to taking ballet classes as my “me time.” I love it!

  6. Congrats on the book launch! this looks like an awesome read. Can’t wait to share this with our followers ๐Ÿ™‚

  7. Congratulations on your book! That is super exciting. I think it is wonderful that you take the time to make jewelry. I made lots of jewelry pre-kids. You are inspiring me to take out my supplies!

  8. I feel centered when I create with my hands too. If I had bigger huevos I think I’d tattoo work flow on my fingers or hustle… ๐Ÿ˜€

  9. DazzleWhileFrazzled

    Congrats on launching a book! I agree that as moms (said as a stay at home to three) that you need an outlet – whatever that is – for you to keep you going. Visiting from Saturday Sharefest.

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